Hi, I’m Bushra — the mother behind To Be The Perfect Mother
I’m a mum of three very different children, a computer engineer with a background in early childhood education, a blogger, an overthinker, and someone who has learned that motherhood has absolutely no interest in following the plans we make for it. 😂
I started this blog when my first child was only 10 months old.
Back then, I genuinely believed that if I learned enough, planned enough and tried hard enough, I could eventually figure out how to be the “perfect mother.”
That mindset made sense to me at the time.
Before motherhood, I was used to working hard and seeing results. If I wanted to become better at something, I simply put more effort into it.
Then I became a mother.
And three children later, I’ve learned that parenting works very differently.
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What Motherhood Has Taught Me:
My children have probably taught me more about motherhood than any parenting book ever could.
They taught me that children can have huge emotions even when you are doing your best.
They taught me that what works beautifully with one child may completely fail with another.
They taught me that flexibility is not bad parenting.
And perhaps most importantly, they taught me that doing more does not always mean mothering better.
There was a time when I thought being a good mother meant filling our days with activities, preparing everything perfectly, keeping the house under control and constantly doing something for my children.
Now I know that sometimes they would much rather have a slow day at home with a mother who is relaxed, laughing and emotionally available than an amazing day planned by a mother who is completely exhausted.
I still love accomplishing things. I still research everything. I still want to improve. That part of me never disappeared.
I’m simply learning where perfection matters, and where it really doesn’t.
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Why This Blog Still Has This Name:
People sometimes tell me:
“There is no such thing as a perfect mother.” I agree.
But I still love the name To Be The Perfect Mother.
It reminds me of the hopeful and ambitious new mother I was when I started this blog, and it reminds me how much my understanding of motherhood has changed.
Today, “perfect” doesn’t mean getting everything right.
To me, it means loving my children, continuing to learn, apologising when I get something wrong, protecting my own energy and showing up again the next day.
It means allowing both my children and myself to be human.
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What You’ll Find Here:
This blog has grown alongside my family, so you’ll find a little bit of everything that comes with raising children and running a home.
I write about practical parenting, baby development and activities, pregnancy and newborn life, baby names from different cultures, family routines, inexpensive ways to create memories with children, recipes and ways to reduce food waste, as well as the more emotional side of motherhood that we don’t always talk about.
Sometimes I share research.
Sometimes I share practical ideas.
And sometimes I simply share something motherhood has taught me the hard way.
My goal is not to tell another mother how to be perfect.
It is to make her life a little easier, give her an idea she can actually use, or remind her that she doesn’t need to do everything to be a good mother.
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A Few Things About Me:
I’m naturally curious and can easily disappear down a research rabbit hole when something interests me.
I still love technology, once an IT person, always an IT person. 😂
I enjoy creating things with my hands, whether that means crochet, gardening, cooking or turning an ordinary idea into something my children will remember.
I love simple family moments much more than I used to. Children playing freely, an afternoon at home, something growing in the garden, or everyone laughing over something completely silly can mean more to me now than a perfectly planned day.
And despite everything motherhood has taught me about letting go of perfection…
I am definitely still a work in progress. ❤️
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Welcome
If you’re a mother who loves her children deeply but sometimes feels exhausted by the pressure to do everything right, you’re in the right place.
Pour yourself a coffee and stay awhile.
We can figure this motherhood thing out together — one imperfect day at a time.